My beautiful readers there's something that's been on my mind for the last two days and I want to share with you how I'm feeling. I know that this may be hard for you guys to believe, but I wasn't always as awesome, and smart as I am today. In fact there once was a time where I believed everyone and everything. I wanted to fit in so bad, and be accepted into certain groups of people that I would do almost anything to try to please them. Why? because I had low self-esteem, and didn't feel good about myself so I wanted approval from other people because what I was really after was reassurance about who I was and if I was "good enough". Well I hung out with the wrong people, who didn't really care about me, and didn't really have my back when I needed them to. I've been hurt a lot in the past by many different people. I used to blame it all on them, but then I realized that it was my fault too for going back and taking it, for not standing up for myself when I should have. People who really loved me and had my back tried to tell me, and I just told them that they were wrong. I just didn't want to hear it. Maybe because I was stubborn, maybe because the truth hurt too much, or maybe because I'm the kind of person who has to learn everything the hard way. I was really upset the other day because I got a message on facebook from a guy I used to work with. He just asked me how I was doing. I asked him if he knew of any decent apartments nearby since my boyfriend and I are looking to move out soon. He told me all about the one that he used to live in. It was just a normal conversation up until he started hitting on me. He asked me for dirty pictures for his brother who is away in the army who asked him specifically for pictures of me. His brother used to work with us too. (Amazing how I was once the girl that no one ever paid much attention to, and now I'm hot apparently.) Anyways I got really angry at him. I told him off. I told him that I loved my boyfriend and that he was wrong to even ask me such a question knowing that I have a boyfriend, not to mention it's really disrespectful to his wife! (yeah this guy is married too! Isn't he a winner?) He said it's not like he was asking me to cheat, and I said "That is cheating to me. I wouldn't want my boyfriend spending pictures to another girl." I pretty much told him that I wasn't doing it and ignored him. Afterwards I was so pissed off. Who the Hell did he think he was? Does he think I'm an idiot? Then I felt kind of sad because it brought back bad memories of other assholes that I've had to deal with in the past. Only back then I was an idiot and felt like I couldn't say no, and when I did say no to them they were really mean to me, and it felt like the end of the world. I used to jump through hoops to try to please people and all it did was make me feel even worse, because no matter what I did I never had the relationship with them that I wanted. If you are hanging around the wrong people, you need to break free. *You need to surround yourself with people who love you and make you happy. *You need to stay strong and not be with bad company, even if it means being alone for a while. *You should be able to be who you are without trying to please anyone. *Stand up for yourself! if someone doesn't like what you have to say, and is mean to you for speaking your mind, they do not need to be in your life. You shouldn't want people like that in your life anyway. *Don't just give your trust away, make people earn it! * Don't let anyone bring you down! * Live your life and be happy, if anyone is mean to you, or makes you feel bad it's time for you guys to go your separate ways.
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Just like everything else in the world we all come in different shapes, and sizes. Some girls think that you have to be like super skinny to be beautiful. I use to feel that way when I was in highschool. I was on this crazy diet. I worked out everyday, jogged for hours and I was never super skinny. I'm just not built that way. But I don't let it get me down anymore because I have been on this earth long enough to realize that every girl is beautiful in their own way. You just have to know how to work it.
Step one: Find your body shape: There are four different kinds of body shapes out there. They are.... Shape #1: Hourglass: Girl's who have an hourglass shape have a smaller waist with wider bust and hips. Shape #2: Pear: Girl's who are pear shaped have a smaller bust and waist, but wider around the hips. Shape #3: Rectangle: Girl's who are pretty much striaght up and down with not much curves, and are usually petite. Shape #4: Apple: Girl's who are wider up top in their bust and shoulders, but smaller around their hips. No matter what shape you are it's important to have confidence, and know who you are. It's not about having "the perfect body." It's about being happy with yourself and using what you already have. Finding the right clothes and styles that complement your body. Here are some things you can try: For Hourglass shapes: Wear dresses that are snug around your waist. This will show attention to your curves. Wear tops with narrow necklines, or even sweetheart tops. These are very flattering to your bust. Wear pants that have wide leg style. This with give you more balance to your body. For Pear shapes: Wear dresses that are tighter up top, but looser from the waist down. This will hide some curves and make you appear slimmer. Don't wear tops that are too tight around your stomach area, instead wear tops that are snug around your bust and flow around your mid-section. This will make your bust look bigger. Instead of wearing shorts in the Summer time wear skirts instead. it's hard to find shorts that are flattering to a pear shaped girl. Skirts look much better on us;-) For Rectangle shapes: You wanna create the look of curves. Wear scoop neck tops. Wear dresses with a thin belt around your waist. This will really make you look curvy. Skinny jeans or jeggings will look very good on you:-) For Apple shapes: Wear longer tops that flow below your waist to hide your mid area. Also try wearing dresses and tops with vertical stripes to create a slimmer appearence:-)Wear tops with plunging necklines to flatter your bust. Avoid anything too tight or clingy! |
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